Commonly, addictions are related to drugs or alcohol, however people can really get addicted to almost anything imaginable, to gambling, exercise, food, work, sex, social media and so on. Basically, whatever the addiction, it’s about trying to cope in some way and trying to fill a void and numb out one’s feelings. This time we’re going to ruminate on addiction to material, more precisely to shoes. Actually, the “shoe thing” is even a bit cliché these days—thanks to Carrie Bradshaw—however, even every paradise tends to have a downside.
It might sound curious that someone feels a compelling need for buying more and more shoes. Besides, is it really that bad having a lot of options in the shoe closet for every occasion and dress code? Yes, one can have too many shoes. Enough is enough no matter what is the addiction in question.
There are certain warning sign that alert you to the dangers of stepping out of line: maybe you have hundreds of pairs of shoes but you don’t even wear most of them, and this doesn’t stop you buying more. In other words, most part of the money you receive goes to shoes. Seriously, is it really okay with going broke for shoes? Or, have you maybe bought your current home based on the laundry/storage room, decorating the future shoe closet in your mind already during the sales presentation? Or have you ever surprised yourself by dreaming about designing a glass door book shelve style shoe cabinet with lighting in it to display all your shoes? If so, you might be seriously obsessed with shoes, but not in the good way.
Could it be that buying shoes helps you hide problems or relieve stress maybe? Do you buy shoes especially when you’re upset, lonely or just stressed? Like any addiction, admitting the true cause of your obsession is the first step to recovery. At the time it might make you excited but gradually you’ll end up in a spiritual void. The more shoes you get the more really important things you will let slip through your fingers, maybe relationships, hobbies, your credit rating or even a job. Definitely not worth it.
Ok, it’s time to stop. Shoes are just shoes, they’re meant to be accessories. Start with trying to figure out other things you can do to provoke that same feeling of excitement. Make a list of the things you could go with all the money that you don’t spend on shoes. A trip to Bahamas perhaps? In everyday life, be aware of all the danger zones, such as lunch breaks, holidays and paydays. Avoid rash decisions, both in the stores as well as online.
There’s nothing wrong with having some pairs of nice shoes. The right shoes can nicely compliment your outfit, they can lengthen your leg and they can alter the look of your calf. The right shoes can make you happy and maintain your health and well-being but not hundreds of right shoes. Invest in quality not quantity. Everything can be enjoyed with moderation. And finally, keep in mind: I wear the shoes the shoes do not wear me.